I found out just a few days ago that I have a half sister through 23 and me. I didn’t find her, she contacted me.

The thing is that I found out I was adopted a few years ago at late 40’s. It was revealed to me by my “brother” via Facebook. I have a copy of it just because it was so unreal to read. It said, “Hey, I know we haven’t talked lately (I had been trying to call him but he wouldn’t answer my calls) but there is something I think you should know. You were adopted.”

Bam. Bam bam. My eyes wouldn’t let me believe what I was seeing so I answered back with “Are you sure? Are you sure? Are you sure? Well I am not going to react on this until I know for sure.”

Fast forward and in a nutshell, I was adopted when my “brother”, who is my adopted mother’s real son, was 6 years old. He is the real child of my “mother.”

The reason this really bothered me is first, why didn’t you call me? I had asked. He told me straight up that he knew that our “mother” would be extremely angry and he was ready to accept that because he didn’t want to have anything to do with her anymore. He said she is getting old and he didn’t want her to pass without me knowing the truth. He knew she would have it out for him. She is a very, very controlling person and when we were kids we both said that we could write a horror story about her and people wouldn’t believe it. She is a case study. She controlled every facet of our life, and to be honest I can’t go on about her because I’ll just sound really angry and bitter.

So to find out that my whole life was living a lie under this woman who didn’t want to disclose to me that I was adopted is a bit unnerving. I can’t say enough how great I felt when I called her up and left a message on her answering machine saying I found out about her deep secret. I finally had something over her that she couldn’t deny.

Once again, long story short, I ended up finding out who my real mother is. Turns out she was from Poland, and my father was from Belgium. She had to move to the states because “tongues would wag” if she stayed in Europe to have me. I can have dual citizenship. I could’ve traveled to Europe and visit other relatives over there.

But after we connected she told me she had no other children but me because she felt bad for giving me away.

Then I get this message from this person on 23 and me saying “I don’t think I’m your niece. I think you’re my half sister.” I took a look at our DNA profiles and we have 25% shared. I wrote her back and said the only way that could be is if you are the daughter of my biological father.

She came back with me saying, my mother is the same person, the same as yours.

Ok. Holy snap. So what is going on? I got lied to growing up with a controlling, lying woman and a brother who resented me ( he told me ), only to find the person who had lied to me about not having any other children. Ok, maybe she didn’t want me to feel bad, maybe there is a reason. Maybe she had another child and had her adopted out. I don’t know.

I am still in a bit of shock and this gal told me if I wanted to text or call she gave me her number.

I’m still reeling over these new developments. If true, which 23 and me says it is, then I have had a half sister my whole life and never knew it.

So I am going to call her and see what her story is. I am nervous but very excited.

I guess to be continued…..Oh, and I’ve started talking to my adopted mother again, only texting, because she’s the only mother I’ve ever known.