law of attraction

“attract love, don’t chase it.

spread love, and it will flow back to you like ocean waves.” Billy Chapata

My first question was how to attract love. I searched “How do I attract love?” and found many articles about attracting a romantic partner. However, I was looking for ways to feel more love in my life, and where I could feel like I was able to spread it, not necessarily seeking a love interest.

I suppose there is a lack of the feeling of love in my life. I needed to find out to feel self love first I ascertained.

I read some helpful ideas for my journey, including self-compassion, self-awareness, and self-care. I should be kind to myself, treating myself like I would treat others. Often, I criticize myself, calling myself names like stupid or saying I look fat or ugly. Or dwelling on feeling I said something stupid and wish I would have said this or that. These are things I would never say or judge someone else, so why think or say them to myself? That one is hard.

To be self-aware, I learned that I should acknowledge my feelings, both good and bad, and understand their origins. This helps me spot triggers for self-doubt and negative self-talk. It’s also important to recognize my positive qualities and see areas for growth without being harsh on myself. Ok…I’ll practice.

Challenging negative talk by replacing it with positive talk. Like, I’m starting to replace 3 positives with one of my negative thoughts. The Dali Lama has a quote that goes, “Choose to be optimistic. It feels better.” I really like that. I am telling myself that every morning when I wake up and I find that it helps in my outlook for the day.

I try not to compare myself to others, but it’s tough. I often think, “Look at what they have achieved at my age,” or “My body doesn’t look as good as theirs.” I found a quote that said not to feel like I should be doing something else at this moment, and that what I’m doing right now is right. This idea is challenging for me.

GRATITUDE, though, is a major one. I used to have a gratitude diary but fell out of practice. I remember when I first started it I would write standard things like, “I am grateful I’ve got my sight, I can hear, I can walk and I’m alive.” But slowly I started to notice that my list of gratitude increased significantly, and I would just keep writing and writing. I’d write about everything from seeing a pretty flower to a nice breeze to receiving love from my two furry friends. Just talking about it is filling me with love. I will get back to doing that again. I remember how I felt when I did keep that diary. My heart was filled. I miss it. Also, listing my strengths also helped with gratitude.

I understand that loving myself is essential to giving to others. I used to think phrases like “you’ve got to love yourself before you can love others” were just cheesy self-help quotes, but I’m beginning to see the truth in them.

As far as chasing love, I think it’s something not to be forced. I can’t run after it and hope it will happen. I have to start with what I’ve got on the inside first. Then I will be able to attract love and give it freely back. It’s true when I hear Love Is Free.

I am going put these things into action. I want to feel love and I want to spread it. I want to attract good things.